Monday, March 6, 2017

Cousins - #SOLSC Day 6

I love March, when during the Slice of Life Challenge, I commit to writing on a daily basis. It's fun during 31 days of posts to watch the ebb and flow of my writing. Some days I'll be incredibly pleased with how a post turned out; other days I'll just be glad I posted anything at all. A huge thanks to the gang at Two Writing Teachers for hosting, organizing, and commenting on this ginormous event each year. I appreciate the community of writers you encourage the entire month of March, and all the Tuesdays the rest of the year. Thank you, thank you.

**This March, I plan to connect as many posts as possible to my #OLW for the year - SAVOR.**

Wanda would have been so happy.

Wanda is my mom, and she died a little over two years ago. Family meant everything to her, and she worked hard at passing that love of family along to my brother and me.

Mom came from a family of eleven brothers and sisters. They didn't have many material things, but they always had each other. The eleven has now been whittled down to three - two sisters and one brother remain, but the memories of the love in our family will stay with us forever.

Childhood memories of family reunions -
  • hugs to say hi
  • huge softball games complete with uncles doing a great deal of trash talking
  • large garbage cans filled with ice and pop
  • homemade ice cream so cold it would surely give us each a brain freeze
  • tables and tables of delicious food
  • another round of hugs to say goodbye

Childhood memories of going visiting at cousins' houses -
  • hugs to say hi
  • hanging out in the haylofts
  • driving the tractors
  • helping my cousin with her sheep at the Logan County Fair
  • playing hide and seek in the different rooms at the motel my uncle and aunt owned
  • always food
  • another round of hugs to say goodbye

Adult memories -
  • our wedding where our family claims the first Wallace cousins' party began
  • future cousins' parties with dancing, laughter, favorite beverages, and tables of delicious food
  • boat rides on the lake
  • dinners gathered around each others' tables
  • grieving together for departed loved ones more times than we would like
  • the cousins' party reinstated this past summer at my brother's house
  • hugs to say hi and another round of hugs to say goodbye

This past Saturday night memories -
  • reached out to some cousins via text : We are free this Saturday. Is anyone free to meet us at the Mexican restaurant?
  • Yes. Yes. Yes.
  • the service was not great
  • the food was just okay
  • but many new stories were told and other stories were retold
  • there was lots of laughter
  • and even a few tears
  • and love, lots and lots of love, at the table
  • many more memories to savor and add to the bank
  • hugs to say hi and another round of hugs to say goodbye
Wanda would have been so happy.

Uncle Carroll*, Uncle Harold*, Uncle Albert*, Uncle Bill*, Uncle Roy
Aunt Florence, Aunt Martha*, Mom (Wanda)*, Aunt Bert, Aunt Mary Evelyn*
missing: Aunt Katherine*
(*gone, but most definitely not forgotten)

**Author's note: When I began writing today, I had one direction, and then this picture and my emotions took me somewhere else. Thanks for stopping here today to read my journey. 
In addition to savoring these family memories, I realized that my cousins are another writing territory for me; I've written about them before.  It's fun to read pieces I've written on the same topic, but approached in different ways.


  1. I love that you let the writing take you where it wanted to go. The memories and the stories? I love those even more.

  2. You seem to have many writing territories to explore here - just write and seem where it takes you. It is my favorite way to go. My post yesterday literally wrote itself as I bawled and bawled. I could barely see the keyboard. Some slices just need to come out.

  3. There aren't as many in my mom's family, but the last of those, one uncle, based away last week. I understand about the cousins, Karen. Most all of mine and their wives or husbands are in Missouri. They get together monthly and I got to see them last summer, will again this coming one. I love all your lists and that picture is special!

  4. How lucky for your mom to have had such a large family! My goodness - how many cousins do you have? As I was reading your post, I thought about the King Family and their annual Christmas shows. I am close to my cousins as well; I see one every week. Thankfully, our children are the same. My daughter was my niece's maid of honor - we call them "sister cousins!"

  5. Great advice - let the writing take you there. Love all the hugs and stories!

  6. Oh, I love this. I love the hugs to say hi and another round of hugs to say goodbye. I think there are a million slices tucked into this post.

  7. You are so lucky to be surrounded by all this family!!! My family doesn't do anything like this and it makes me really sad!

  8. I loved following a timeline of memories and reading you are still creating memories. Cherish those opportunities.